Wennebella

Today is Wednesday, and I am in desperate need of a Wenday. This is something that my husband invented back in 2018, after we had just started our long distance relationship, and I was constantly feeling overwhelmed by all the changes that were going on in my life.

Back in 2018 I had to leave a pretty toxic living situation. As it was rather difficult to get a house in the Netherlands, I moved into an abandoned school with my best friend, and 3 people I didn’t know, where we each had a whole classroom to make into a home. Before this move, I had absolutely no social life, and would go days without even leaving my home, let alone talk to anyone in person. This was quite a difficult change for me due to anxiety, an avoidant personality disorder, and agoraphobia. Suddenly seeing people every day, being social, going out and about to do my own shopping and such was overwhelming me, and I was getting close to feeling burnt out. Next to that I was on a video call with my husband (back then he was still my boyfriend, how weird!) almost 24/7, and while I absolutely loved that, I felt like I didn’t have any time for myself to just be Wen. After talking about this with my husband, he thought of the idea that I should have one day a week that is just for me, to do what I want to do, not think about other people, not even him. He cleverly thought to do that every Wednesday, and call it Wenday (he was very proud of that). So that’s what I did, every Wednesday I would have a day to myself, to do the things I loved doing without social obligations, without having to go out to get shopping, but instead to just be Wen. This didn’t mean I didn’t talk to him or that I stopped being social all together, of course, I would still be on a video call with my him, but we would do our own thing whilst doing so, and on some Wendays I would choose to walk to the other side of the school, to my best friend’s classroom and spend time with her.

I don’t very often have Wendays anymore, only when life gets a bit too overwhelming, but it’s a concept I have been trying to bring back into my life again. And as today is Wednesday, it’s the perfect day for it, especially since I had a terrible night and barely slept, and it’s a wonderfully rainy day (oh how lovely). So today I will only be doing things that bring me joy. My husband brought home breakfast and a pumpkin spice latte (I am not a coffee drinker at all, but enjoy the occasional seasonal drink) after he finished work, and once he went to bed, I decided to spend some time on Animal Crossing as I am starting a new island. Later today I also want to journal, and maybe do something crafty or work on my blog as I want to make some layout changes. Sadly, I do have a scary doctor’s appointment as well, so my Wenday will be a little bit more stressful than I wanted it to be, but hopefully my cosy games and hobbies will distract me.